I’ve waited too long to post this blog. I’ve been waiting for one massive revelation that will mean I will forever and always feel 100% sure and secure in my identity as a child of God. I’ve been waiting for something new, something I didn’t know before, that would act like a key to unlocking the secret to being satisfied in Christ. I’m so sick of saying ‘I know I’m a child of God but…’

The only idea I thought of was something so simple, it didn’t feel ‘blog-worthy.’ But here it goes anyway.

What if, in order to know deep down that I am a child of God, I simply spend time being with my Father?

You see, I’ve had wonderful revelations of the Father heart of God. I spent 6 months in ‘author coaching’ (i.e. counselling!) which resulted in one new chapter being added to my book about how important it is to know God is our Father and how we have false assumptions based on our experience of earthly fathers. All really important, incredibly freeing stuff. (I would love you to buy the book and read about it yourself.) But knowing it and living it out in every area of my life is not as easy as it sounds. I find myself saying ‘I know I’m a child of God but…. I don’t feel like it/what does that really mean/fill in your own blank here.’

But what if, when we spend time with our Father, we don’t have to remind ourselves that He is our Father? What if we can just enjoy being a daughter?

When we spend time with our father, we may finally begin to feel like a daughter.

When we spend time with our Father, we may then begin to act like a daughter.

When we spend time with our Father, we might just end up thinking with the mind of Christ.

If the life long transformation of being a Christian is to become more like Jesus then we need to ask ourselves, where did Jesus get His identity from? I’ve written a three part blog on where Jesus didn’t get it from.

Jesus didn’t allow his enemy to dictate who He was (and neither should we).

Jesus didn’t allow public opinion to shape his identity or destiny - even when it seemed like a good thing (and neither should we).

Jesus didn’t even rely on Himself alone but did everything in union with His Father, in the power of the Spirit (and so can we).

Publicly, more than once, God the Father announced from the heavens that Jesus was His son and He was well pleased with Him. Was that for Jesus’ benefit? Maybe. Was it for our benefit? Definitely.

Jesus spent time every day with His Father. Praying. Listening. Loving that time together. It wasn’t a chore. He loved it. He needed it. How much more do we need it?

Our heavenly Father knows us thoroughly and loves us unconditionally. Our heavenly Father does not change his opinion based on culture or popularity of the masses. And our heavenly Father's heart is pure, not corrupt, so He alone is fit to judge us rightly. Our heavenly Father’s opinion is one that can be trusted, especially when we experience times of uncertainty. 

Who our Father says we are does not change when we grow up, get married, lose a job, move house, have children, retire or lose a loved one. It is constant and steadfast. We can trust Him. We can depend on Him and who He says we are.

John 1:12-13 says “To all who did receive him [Jesus], to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God – children born not of natural descent, nor of human decision or a husband’s will, but born of God." (NIV)

If you have received Jesus as your Lord, if you believe in His name, then your first identity - unchanging, unwavering, trustworthy identity - is that you are a child of God. One role of the Holy Spirit is to confirm that, deep down in our hearts. (Romans 8:14-16, Galatians 4:6)

Not only are you a child of God but you have all the rights of a child of God. What rights are they? The right to claim everything the Bible says about you as true.  

NOW is when all those Bible verses that say who we are in Christ really begin to make sense. Instead of skimming the surface of our hearts they embed themselves and transform our thoughts, actions & lives. Verses like:

Colossians 3:1 - I am raised with Christ

1 Peter 2:9 - I am part of a chosen generation,a royal priesthood

Colossians 3:11 - Christ is in me

Ephesians 4:11 - Jesus Himself gave me to be an evangelist/apostle/teacher/pastor/prophet (delete as appropriate - mine is evangelist, always has been)

Genesis 1:27 - I am made in the image of God

Psalm 139:13-14 - I am fearfully and wonderfully made

Ephesians 2:19 - I am no longer a stranger but a part of the family of God

Ephesians 2:10 - I am God’s craftsmanship, his masterpiece, created in Christ Jesus

Ephesians 2:4 - God has great love for me

John 3:16 - God loves me so much, He gave His Son to die for me so that I may live

Ephesians 3:6 - I am an heir with Christ

1 Peter 2:9 - I am a part of a holy nation, a special people, called out of darkness into light

Philippians 1:6 - God has begun a good work in me and He will finish it!

Ephesians 2:21- I am a temple of the Holy Spirit

Colossians 3:3 - My life is hidden with Christ in God

Philippians 3:12-13 - I am not perfected but I press on, forgetting behind, reaching forward

Psalm 45:10-11 - I am a daughter of the King of Kings

John 1:12 - I have been given the right to be called a child of God

Romans 8:1 - There is no condemnation for me, in Christ Jesus

In desperate times, I’ve sought out, studied and repeated these verses over and over - I wrote them, said them, sang them, memorized them. And when I was really down, when my mind was in a fog of despair, they were handles of truth to grasp so I could pull myself out.

But after simply spending time being with the Father, instead of these verses being lifebelts to rescue me in my desperation, these truths are calm, solid, unwavering foundation stones to build my life on.

What does spending time with the Father look like?

For Jesus it looked like getting away from the noise to pray. For some that’s outside, for some that’s early morning, for some that’s a special room in the house, for some that’s just closing your eyes and shutting out the mad world around you. For me it’s dancing hard out in the kitchen with my favourite worship songs on full volume till I’m so exhausted I bow low in silence and bask in the love of God. (I’m usually alone when I do this. Obviously.) Sometimes I open my Bible or look at my list and simply ask: what do you want to talk about today, Father?

Try it and see how it goes. Spend time with the Father and be a child of God. Carve out space in your life. Be intentional. Put in in your diary or as a reminder on your phone. Don’t focus on trying to make yourself feel like a child of God, instead, just focus on the Father and BE a child of God.

Get Real with God

  1. What would you put in the blank: “I know I’m a child of God but…”

  2. How when and where will you next make space to spend time simply being with the Father?

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